Obsessed With Cheating

Happy Monday readers! Here in drought ridden Georgia I am elated to see some rain. Every little bit helps.

Last night I decided to check out Michael Baisden After Dark and just like the first show I tuned in to, and almost every radio show I tuned in to, he continued to discuss cheating. Why men cheat and why it is women's fault.

First of all, it's a myth that ALL men cheat. There are a lot of men who don't cheat. They don't cheat on their girlfriends, they don't cheat on their wives, they don't cheat on tests or taxes. It simply is not in their character to cheat. I don't know many of these men, but they are out there.

Secondly, I think Mr Baisden is so obsessed with cheating because he cannot figure out why HE cannot stay faithful in a relationship. In order to make himself feel better about his short comings, he wants to pin it on all men and make women to blame for it!

I think it is natural to be attracted to multiple people. God wired us for that. It is necessary for procreation. For instance, if we were only attracted to one person in a life time and our mate experienced an untimely death and there were no children, the surviving mate would be left without the ability to procreate.

So while I believe it is perfectly natural to desire others I don't believe it is unnatural to be monogamous. If promiscuity in humans were natural, even an evolutionist would have to agree that the body should not be susceptible to sexually transmitted disease. Our immune systems should have evolved to the point where we could share multiple partners.

In the animal kingdom there are several species that are totally monogamous, but scientifically speaking, it pays to be promiscuous to continue the existence of the species. Not coincidentally, animals do not contract sexual diseases from one another.

Social environment has played more a role in cheating and promiscuity in humans than biology. We were given that extra something that other species do not have. Free will. The ability to reason. To make decisions. We don't have to act out on our biological receptors.

Cheating is easy. It's lazy. I dare say immature. It is easy to be charming and romantic and spontaneous without responsibilities. Share a mortgage, some children, your dirty stinkin drawers with that other woman. Sooner or later a man will be having those same difficult moments with that clean up woman that he was having with his wife, live in lady.... whatever he calls her.

Michael Baisden declared numbers alone indicate that women have to share. Not so. It is true that women out number men. But you will always have those women and men that choose not to partner in life. Loners for whatever reason. Factor in homosexuality. The many women who are partnering with other women. That still leaves plenty of men available for monogamous relationships and black women especially are trying something new. Dating and partnering outside of their race. Don't believe the hype about numbers.

Monogamous couples can use their natural attraction to others to kick up the romance between themselves. There is no harm in knowing that other people find you sexy and desirable. I believe a little flirting is even good with boundaries. Who wants somebody that nobody else wants? Honestly. Using the knowledge that all the ladies in the room want your man and he is going home with you makes you the baddest bitch in the room! The same goes for men. If all the men in the room want your lady and you are taking her home, must mean you got that whip appeal! There are many ways to use your attraction to others as foreplay for great sex with your exclusive mate. That's another blog on another day.

So while the Mr Baisden's of the world continue to find excuses to cheat, let us men and woman who celebrate and practice monogamy stick together and let our voice be heard.

P.S.
Kudos to Mr George Wilson(on the show) who stood up for monogamous men and why men DONT cheat!

That's melavision. What's yours?